I read a book once about an American newspaper publisher who decided that his newspaper would only publish good news. He was very soon insolvent.
News is only really news when it is bad. That is what sells.
We tend to fall into this trap. We so easily fall into the negative. Do we by default, (automatically, as a habit) see the best in people or do we judge on imperfection?
How easy it is to be negative about people! We seem to crave showing off our own discontent, for actually negativity is seldom about the issue and usually about ourselves. Think about your discussions around the braai or dinner table, your discussions with colleagues or even with your hairdresser. How many start “Isn’t it wonderful..?” or “How good to ….?” Very few I suspect!
Negative talk nearly always reflects a deeper personal issue and serves to provide momentary relief from personal pain.
The trouble is that in the world of organisations, and St Mary’s DSG is no different, one negative is not cancelled by one positive. Negativity is a cancer which eats not only at our personal soul but erodes the school’s vitality.
A simple example which I share with the girls often: one guest not greeted can negate hundreds who are.
Certainly one unkind comment by a teacher can undo a year of loving attention. (It shouldn’t but it does.)
One disgruntled parent who feels it preferable to indulge in car park gossip can create untold damage irrespective of the majority who are fully supportive.
This St Mary’s Matters is an appeal to DRAW POSITIVE PEOPLE TOGETHER….for the “good news” people to prevail; for Old Girls, Staff, Parents and Pupils to simply overwhelm the negative minority by becoming visible, active and determined. This is an appeal to the community to join our march forward, onward and upward, and to reject the temptation towards the downward spiral.
For we are a school moving forward, determined to make tomorrow better than today, eager to improve, welcoming constructive discontent, knowing that however good we are, we can be better, and are called by God to conform more to His plan every new day.
You may have heard the joke: “A man was watching a fisherman load crayfish onto a shallow tray for transport to be sold. Crayfish upon crayfish was loaded on top of each other until the squirming pile was ludicrously high. Expecting the pile to collapse in a disastrous splash liberating the entire catch, the man asked, ‘Why don’t you put them in a box with bigger sides?’ ‘Not necessary’ the fisherman replied. ‘These are South African crayfish. They are so busy pulling each other down, none will fall off!’”
Let me share some Positive News.
From a 2012 matric just received “Thank you for providing me with an education that equips me with a mind that is capable of analysing information, processing it and then making my own educated conclusion, instead of just repeating information. Education isn’t what you learn. It’s what you do with what you learn.”
From a new Junior School parent, “We are absolutely loving the energy around DSG …”
From parents of a matric who left in 2010 who I bumped into at Hillcrest Boulevard “St Mary’s is the reason our daughter has done so well at university.”
From the mother of a new Senior School girl “The school buildings and grounds are beautiful, steeped in a rich tradition and history that seems to echo throughout and creates a sense of peace and tranquility.”
From a 2012 matric “Thank you for making DSG feel like a family and not a school. I am really going to miss all the traditions and values that make DSG remarkable.
From another 2012 matric “My life is embedded in the grounds that make the gardens and the bricks that build the walls.”
From another 2012 matric, “I do believe that my time here has shaped me into a more confident, respectful and presentable woman.”
And another “ I leave the gates of DSG with the belief that in life one should strive for the extraordinary and make time to enjoy the ride. Our beautiful school and its phenomenal people have inspired my belief and I could not be more grateful. DSG is in my heart and where ever life may take me I will always feel protected and like I belong.”
Like Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu (who said at the 130th Anniversary Mass “This is the type of school they said could not exist”,) I believe in the innate goodness of people. I also believe in the self fulfilling prophecy “Positive people produce positive results, and negative people negative results.”
Let us DRAW POSITIVE PEOPLE TOGETHER, and together with the 2013 matrics strive for their mission for the year “Together. We are one.”